Faith and Jeffery provided music as a Cello duet
Matt's Uncle Peter was the Officiator and Gretchen's Uncle Ron was the confirmer
Our friends Joan and Andi both read selections, as did Matt's brother Chris and Gretchen's brother Andrew
Matt- to audience
We would like to thank all of you who have come to share in this moment. We would most like to thank our parents, Nancy, Burt, Judy and Bill for their unwavering love and support.
Gretchen- to audience
Our lives have also been enriched by those who can not be here today. Let us take a moment to silently think about those who have influenced us and who's presence we miss today.
First reading: Andrew
For one human being to love another being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering and uniting with another person- it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in oneself, to become world, to become world in oneself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distances.
-Letters to a young poet, Rainer Maria Rilke
Second reading: Joan
“What is real?” asked the Rabbit one day. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”
“Real isn't how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”
“Does it hurt?”
“Sometimes.” For he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.”
“Dose it happen all at once, like being wound up, or bit by bit?”
“It doesn't happen all at once. You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or who have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.”
-The Velveteen Rabbit, Margery Williams
Third reading: Peter
True, we love life, not because we are used to living, but because we are used to loving. There is always some madness in love, but there is also always some reason in madness.
-Friedrich Nietzsche, 19th century German philosopher, from Thus Spake Zarathustra
Understanding that just as we are a mystery to ourselves, each other person is also a mystery to us. Do you pledge to seek to understand yourselves, each other and all living beings, to examine your own minds continually and to regard all the mysteries of life with curiosity and joy?
Gretchen and Matt -we do
Ron- to audience
Marriage is a commitment that two people make to each other. Marriage is also a commitment that the community makes to two people. I will ask you all to show your commitment to these two: the appropriate response is, “we do”. Do you commit yourselves to Gretchen and Matthew, to love them, support them, guide them, listen to them, and speak to them in love?
Audience - we do
Peter- small vow introduction
Matt speaks his vow
Gretchen speaks her vow
Music for reflection – Faith and Jeffrey
Exchange of rings
Ron- to couple
A circle is the symbol of the sun and the earth and the universe. It is a symbol of holiness and of perfection and of peace. In these rings it is the symbol of unity, in which your lives are now joined in one unbroken circle in which, wherever you go, you will always return to one another and to your togetherness.
Fourth reading: AndiAct without contriving;
Fifth reading: AndiWhen all under heaven know beauty as beauty,
Peter- to couple
Matthew and Gretchen, you have made your vows to each other, your family and friends have promised you their love and support. We now declare that you are husband and wife, partners in life.
Closing reading: ChrisNow you will feel no rain,
Closing music – Faith and Jeffrey